We began with a simple game of duck-duck-goose. Noted the effect of the game on our emotions. Brief discussion of the subtle influence that a "game situation" has on our posture, readiness, and strategic thinking.
Clapping game warm-up for attention, focus, energy.
Reading of "A Gardener Calls," the opening scene in Intimate Exchanges.
Notice the opening struggle in Celia as she decides to smoke. In terms of the Berne Ego States of Parent/Adult/Chld we see her Child win out. Notice how the scene follows with her mostly n a Child state when with Lionel.
We read through the scene, alternating reading teams. Notice the sense of sureness in Lionel and the sense of unsureness in Celia. Celia works from an "I'm Not OK" position. Lionel is "OK". Lionel's posture changes when Sylvia enters. We see him get hooked by her game of aloofness and the tease of "other arrangements."
We saw a good example of crossed transaction with Lionel's remark "You need crazy paving."
From there the transactions appeared complementary as the two conversed on an Adult to Adult level, socially, and a Child to Child level, internally, while they discussed what Lionel would do for her.
Consider: When Celia has finished her lengthy disclosure to Lionel regarding the difficulty she has as Headmaster's wife, Lionel has choices in the manner he responds. He could choose intimacy and respond in an open, honest way either from an Adult state or even a Nurturing Parent state (more on this to come.) Instead, Lionel chose to play a game.
Berne suggests that games substitute for intimacy.